(October 5, 2013 at 11:16 pm)KichigaiNeko Wrote: You forgive yourself and NEVER forget who hurt you and then LEARN and move on.Pretty much this. But I would add-- be yourself. Figure out who you are, and go with that. The person you are at your core remains, with or without religious belief.
Christianity tells you that almost everything is black-and-white and that therefore you must follow a script from which you must not deviate on pain of incurring god's wrath. Once you step out from under that cloud, you must approach life's situations with the same logical mind that got you this far. It may seem scary, but remember also that now you are free to both determine what your best interests are, and to act in a manner that serves those interests. No more making decisions to appease someone who isn't there. Think about how nonsensical and counter-productive that is, and face the future with the understanding that what you think actually matters now.
"Well, evolution is a theory. It is also a fact. And facts and theories are different things, not rungs in a hierarchy of increasing certainty. Facts are the world's data. Theories are structures of ideas that explain and interpret facts. Facts don't go away when scientists debate rival theories to explain them. Einstein's theory of gravitation replaced Newton's in this century, but apples didn't suspend themselves in midair, pending the outcome. And humans evolved from ape- like ancestors whether they did so by Darwin's proposed mechanism or by some other yet to be discovered."
-Stephen Jay Gould
-Stephen Jay Gould
