(November 23, 2013 at 7:28 pm)freedomfromfallacy Wrote: I was a Christian when my wife and I married. My wife is still a Christian and I'm an atheist. We have very honest communication in our marriage. My only advice is to be honest with your GF. Tell her all you are feeling. If she asks any questions, remain open, and give her clear, concise, answers. DO NOT attack her faith or call her belief silly (or any other such derogatory sounding comments - though you may be tempted). If you and she are going to make it for the 'long haul' (however long that is in your mind), then her response will demonstrate her desires. I wish you well, and I hope you find your balance.
Sage advice indeed.
I might add, that if you are open with your feelings and responses to her questions, be prepared for her to end the relationship.
If her other fundamentalist friends, family, pastor find out that you're no longer a fundy, or worse, a disbeliver
, she may be pressured to end the relationship.
You'd believe if you just opened your heart" is a terrible argument for religion. It's basically saying, "If you bias yourself enough, you can convince yourself that this is true." If religion were true, people wouldn't need faith to believe it -- it would be supported by good evidence.
