Should I tell my girlfriend that I'm an atheist?

[erealmz]

Okay she's not really my girlfriend we're just kind of talking right now. But I found out that she does go to church and so she is most likely a Christian. I really do like this girl and I want to make it work with her, but she does not know that I'm an atheist. As a true atheist, I stand behind my beliefs 100%. But when it comes to women, that 100% turns into about 23%.

I don't think that admitting my atheism to her will sway her intentions towards me. I'm more likely to screw that up on my own. But none the less I am trying to present an image from the core of my being that is nothing more than myself. I keep it real. So I want to tell her that I don't believe in her God (though not exactly in those words LOL). Should I just make the announcement plain bold and simple? Or should I just wait until it kind of falls into place? Opinions atheists. I trust your feedback more than I've ever trusted the Christians, even if you guys have more sarcasm behind your rhetorics.

[Little Rik]

Okay she's not really my girlfriend we're just kind of talking right now. But I found out that she does go to church and so she is most likely a Christian. I really do like this girl and I want to make it work with her, but she does not know that I'm an atheist. As a true atheist, I stand behind my beliefs 100%. But when it comes to women, that 100% turns into about 23%.

I don't think that admitting my atheism to her will sway her intentions towards me. I'm more likely to screw that up on my own. But none the less I am trying to present an image from the core of my being that is nothing more than myself. I keep it real. So I want to tell her that I don't believe in her God (though not exactly in those words LOL). Should I just make the announcement plain bold and simple? Or should I just wait until it kind of falls into place? Opinions atheists. I trust your feedback more than I've ever trusted the Christians, even if you guys have more sarcasm behind your rhetorics.

You need a lot of diplomacy my friend by using the famous Trojan horse to get her favors so you may get two birds with one stone so to speak.  

In any case wouldn't be better to get rid of that illusion called atheism so you can get her favors in a clean way?  

[I_am_not_mafia]

Personally I'd not make an announcement. It makes it look like something to be ashamed of or that is particularly important. But don't hide it. The relationship may not go anywhere anyway and you just want to enjoy each other for the moment. Eventually the subject will come up on its own accord, like what you did last Sunday etc.

[ignoramus]

PO, and that's when you call her an immature little baby cow!



Sorry Mathilda! Your "other" thread made my day!
Hope you're OK.

[The Valkyrie]

Two pieces of advise.

1. If you're concerned, bring up atheism in the course of every day conversation. Not your own, just general reference. See how she responds. If it's overwhelmingly negative, then keep it to yourself until your relationship develops further (assuming it does).

2. Ignore anything said to you by Little (P)Rik. He's a pretentious moron with an ego that greatly outweighs his IQ.

[Cod]

In any case wouldn't be better to get rid of that illusion called atheism so you can get her favors in a clean way?  

I would get her favours and then tell her

[I_am_not_mafia]

You could just pretend to be really ignorant about christianity as if you knew nothing about it and were finding out about it for the first time. When she tries to convert you, ask really awkward questions in an innocent way so that she comes to realise how it all sounds to a fresh pair of ears.

e.g.

"So this god, do you actually hear him? Or you imagine hearing him?"
"So he is everywhere all the time, even when I want some privacy like on the shitter?"
"How do you know that God is male?"

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I would get her favours and then tell her

"Oh God yes! Yes! YES!"
"I'm an atheist."
"YES! Yeah ... what???"

[Little Rik]

In any case wouldn't be better to get rid of that illusion called atheism so you can get her favors in a clean way?  

I would get her favours and then tell her

That is the Trojan horse way but that may well leave a sense of sadness in her mind-heart.  
All depend whether you care 100% about her or not.  

Al the best anyway.  

[Cod]

"Oh God yes! Yes! YES!"
"I'm an atheist."
"YES! Yeah ... what???"

Ahem, it would be more like..
"Oh Cod yes! yes! YES!
"I'm an atheist."
"Who cares, don't stop"

[Aoi Magi]

Personally, my beliefs regarding religion, politics, sports e.t.c have very little significance in my life, so I will never go out of my way to speak of them but for anyone who is close to me like my friends, I would tell them the truth if the topic does come up. I'd never want the basis of a relationship to be a lie or something hidden that can gnaw at me down the line.