YEC Girlfriend

[downbeatplumb]

Hi everybody. This is my first time here, so please don't hate me too much if I'm posting this in the incorrect place.

Basically, my girlfriend and I are both 18 years old. She is a YEC Christian, and I was a Christian too when our relationship began about 2 years ago. She's my first real girlfriend, and I'm her first serious boyfriend.

Despite me starting off our relationship as a Christian, I have slowly (but surely) moved away from Christianity, especially fundamentalism, and now embrace a more humanistic (perhaps even very loosely deistic) philosophy. My girlfriend, however, remains a YEC.

I have kept this transition to myself for the most part. She knows that I am more politically liberal than she is and that I hold science to a higher regard than she does. However, she doesn't know that I view "TheEarthIs6000YearsOldism" as lunacy or that I don't accept the idea of the Benevolent-but-Vengeful God as likely.

I could use some advice on how to move forward from here. She is a really smart, funny, sweet girl, and I'm perfectly fine with her being a Christian and don't see it as a deal-breaker. I was raised in a Fundy family, so I can put up with it for the most part. I don't know how/what to tell her about my views though, and, as we go to college and as our relationship progresses, I could see this becoming a point of contention, especially if we don't talk about it beforehand.

Any advice or the sharing of similar experiences would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Personally what I would do is tell her honestly your stance but also let her know that its not actually a big deal and you don't disrespect her view and still love her.

But only do this if the subject comes up, I see no need for a big "there's something I need to tell you moment"

My wife is a spiritualist and we have had some heated discussions on the subject. At the end of the day she wont be moved from her beliefs and I wont be moved from my lack of belief so we just don't talk about it now so it isn't an issue.

I do get the feeling that if I go before her my "spirit" will start to visit her and admit i was wrong.