I understand that it's hard for you Veg, and I'm sorry. Despite the delicate situation, I'm going to be frank. If she can't make the decision herself and let her parents take over in a situation like this, she is not worth the trouble. You both may very well love each other a lot, but love alone isn't enough. She has to take a stand, go against her parents' beliefs or lose you.
To put things into perspective, I had to do something very similar with my dad. Scruffy is unemployed and I have been the breadwinner for as long as we have been together. Dad was really upset with him, thinking that he was taking advantage of me, that I was enabling him to procrastinate and was convinced that Scruffy doesn't do all in his power to improve our economic situation. Dad wanted us to separate, in the sense that we wouldn't live under the same roof anymore. I put my foot down then and there, said that I couldn't bail on Scruffy when things were getting tough, that he gives me so much, despite not being able to provide as much money as I am. Dad backed down and said that he could respect me for wanting to work for my relationship and we didn't talk about moving apart again.
So, what I'm basically saying, if your girl isn't willing to fight for you, she's not worthy of you. I'm just so sorry that it had to come down to this in your case
To put things into perspective, I had to do something very similar with my dad. Scruffy is unemployed and I have been the breadwinner for as long as we have been together. Dad was really upset with him, thinking that he was taking advantage of me, that I was enabling him to procrastinate and was convinced that Scruffy doesn't do all in his power to improve our economic situation. Dad wanted us to separate, in the sense that we wouldn't live under the same roof anymore. I put my foot down then and there, said that I couldn't bail on Scruffy when things were getting tough, that he gives me so much, despite not being able to provide as much money as I am. Dad backed down and said that he could respect me for wanting to work for my relationship and we didn't talk about moving apart again.
So, what I'm basically saying, if your girl isn't willing to fight for you, she's not worthy of you. I'm just so sorry that it had to come down to this in your case
When I was young, there was a god with infinite power protecting me. Is there anyone else who felt that way? And was sure about it? but the first time I fell in love, I was thrown down - or maybe I broke free - and I bade farewell to God and became human. Now I don't have God's protection, and I walk on the ground without wings, but I don't regret this hardship. I want to live as a person. -Arina Tanemura
