RE: New to the forums; question about parents
March 1, 2014 at 6:18 pm
(This post was last modified: March 1, 2014 at 6:19 pm by *Deidre*.)
First, welcome to the forums.
Your situation is very common, when someone shares with his/her family, friends etc...that he/she no longer believes what they believe. Part of the problem is, that while your mom might have good intentions for wishing you would remain Christian, she also has an ego. She may be feeling personally insulted, as if you are trying to insinuate that what she believes is nonsense. (It is, but it's important to not push your beliefs on her, also.)
Your relationship will ebb and flow as she now knows your beliefs are not like hers. But, be kind, yet firm in your stance. I wouldn't accuse her of being discriminatory. It will do no good. She is still your mother...so respect her, but you don't have to agree with her.
That would be my advice. Live your life as best you can, be a good person...and you may just change her preconceived notions about Atheism.
Your situation is very common, when someone shares with his/her family, friends etc...that he/she no longer believes what they believe. Part of the problem is, that while your mom might have good intentions for wishing you would remain Christian, she also has an ego. She may be feeling personally insulted, as if you are trying to insinuate that what she believes is nonsense. (It is, but it's important to not push your beliefs on her, also.)
Your relationship will ebb and flow as she now knows your beliefs are not like hers. But, be kind, yet firm in your stance. I wouldn't accuse her of being discriminatory. It will do no good. She is still your mother...so respect her, but you don't have to agree with her.
That would be my advice. Live your life as best you can, be a good person...and you may just change her preconceived notions about Atheism.
