(March 23, 2014 at 11:21 am)futilethewinds Wrote: I really think everything you said in that first paragraph is extremely common. It is possible that absolutely everybody does that. I'm not sure how one STOPS doing that, because I mean, if you didn't have this idealized version of who this person is at the beginning of the relationship, why would you want to be with THEM over anybody else in the world? And inevitably, humans are just so disappointing. Every single one, every single time will disappoint you if you allow yourself to have any kind of expectation for them whatsoever.
You're absolutely right. I guess maybe it's my inability to cope with it that drives me nuts. Or maybe I just haven't found the right person. It hasn't happened yet with my current GF, which is great. And we've been together almost a year. So maybe I just attributed the natural death of a relationship to my shortcomings when it was nothing more than just the end of my time with that person.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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