(April 23, 2014 at 8:38 pm)OhZoe0922 Wrote: I have a problem. My husbands father is a preacher, as well as his grandfather. I try to keep relations respectful, but there are times when they out right tell me I am wrong in my beliefs, which is expected from preachers lol, but if I respond with my own reason and logic I am the one who is viewed as "starting problems" ...how do I reply to them? Or at least how do I get them to stop commenting on my beliefs (or more appropriately my lack of beliefs)?
Empathy.
Just reply by saying something like, 'I know you think my beliefs are wrong and I can accept you think that. I have no issues with it.'
You accept how they feel without agreeing with them. Failing that point them at the parable of the good Samaritan.
MM
"The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions" - Leonardo da Vinci
"I think I use the term “radical” rather loosely, just for emphasis. If you describe yourself as “atheist,” some people will say, “Don’t you mean ‘agnostic’?” I have to reply that I really do mean atheist, I really do not believe that there is a god; in fact, I am convinced that there is not a god (a subtle difference). I see not a shred of evidence to suggest that there is one ... etc., etc. It’s easier to say that I am a radical atheist, just to signal that I really mean it, have thought about it a great deal, and that it’s an opinion I hold seriously." - Douglas Adams (and I echo the sentiment)
"I think I use the term “radical” rather loosely, just for emphasis. If you describe yourself as “atheist,” some people will say, “Don’t you mean ‘agnostic’?” I have to reply that I really do mean atheist, I really do not believe that there is a god; in fact, I am convinced that there is not a god (a subtle difference). I see not a shred of evidence to suggest that there is one ... etc., etc. It’s easier to say that I am a radical atheist, just to signal that I really mean it, have thought about it a great deal, and that it’s an opinion I hold seriously." - Douglas Adams (and I echo the sentiment)
