RE: Explaining death to children.
July 10, 2014 at 7:21 pm
(This post was last modified: July 10, 2014 at 7:23 pm by Ksa.)
(June 26, 2014 at 3:17 am)Intimae_Hasta Wrote: I have just read an article in my local paper regarding a young father who kept himself ultra fit, but died following a visit to the gym. In the article, it goes on to explain how the mother found it very difficult to tell her children. Up to now, we have a very sad, tragic event that has devastated a family. I have empathy in bucket loads for them, but when it goes on to say that she told the children "Daddy has gone to Heaven to live with the angels", I have a problem. This is just an example story, but every similar one you read involves patronising children and comforting them with fairy tales so they grow up with a warped view of what I call the cycle of life. I honestly believe we should be bringing up children to know about birth, life and death. The sudden loss of a 31 year old father, hitherto fit and healthy, is going to generate far more questions than answers when it is considered from the god, heaven and angels point of view. When these kids ask, "why my daddy?" no doubt the answer will be "god has his reasons". Yeah, right.
Yes, comforting yourself with a fairy tale. When you have sex and penetrate a woman, suck on her feet if you happen to have a foot fetish, you also comfort yourself with a fairy tale to overcome the irrationality of your behavior...the dirty feet...and, very pleasant it is too!
A religious person is like that. He cannot give up that dirty foot in his mouth no matter how irrational it may be, because he likes it that way. I am a seeker of truth and I reject religion, but that's because I have other pleasures, and believe me, those pleasures are highly irrational as well.
It is very hard for one to find comfort and pleasure in rational things...simply because your rational brain is not there to achieve such a biological function. Nucleus accumbens and the prefrontal cortex links leading to its neurons are irrational processes.
So, if the mother tried to explain death to her children, she failed miserably. If however she tried to comfort them so that they would not be sad, she achieved high quality standards.