(August 11, 2014 at 4:29 am)downbeatplumb Wrote:(August 10, 2014 at 12:28 am)Jenny A Wrote: Does anyone have trouble saying "I love you.?" Can you say it too often and wear it out?
We say it a lot in our little family, both between sisters and sisters and parents and girls, not to mention husband and wife. But my Mom has actually complained of hearing it too often from the girls--wears it out don't you see? --- I don't.
Any thoughts?
To say it to someone risks them not saying it back. That my friend, is a downer.
But who is indebted to whom? The person who has provoked my feelings of love have given me a gift. Whether I have given them the same gift isn't altogether under either of our control. But beyond anything too mushy, there is just affection and appreciation. If you feel those things, why not say so? We don't say it on a schedule or as a ritual. But when I'm feeling it, it just seems right to say so. (It helps to compensate for the times I have to point out what an asshole she is being.)
I'm sure I say it more than she does. But I don't feel like she 'should' say it more. I'm already the lucky one in that I get to feel moved to say so. No need to rub it in that she isn't as fortunate to have me as I am to have her. Or maybe she just isn't as tuned in to what she is feeling as often as I am. That is probably at least part of the reason.
