Your thoughts on finding "the one"?

[Clueless Morgan]

So, if you met a girl in class you wouldn't deliberately have to approach her or introduce yourself in order to initiate that connection? I think you do. Even if she's sitting right next to you, you still have to say something to her to establish a connection, even if it's "Did you catch which pages we're supposed to read for homework?" or "My copy of the syllabus is smudged, does that say the paper is due this Friday or next Friday?"

My point is that whether you happen to see a girl in a cafe and introduce yourself, or see a girl in class and introduce yourself, or see a girl at a gig and introduce yourself, you're still creating the circumstances for you to meet.

Sure, but I think in class it would feel more.. "acceptable".. to initiate a conversation, because you're bound to meet classmates eventually. It's one of the ways in which we make friends. But at a cafe, there isn't that expectation.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to talk to strangers when you're standing in line at a store or coffee shop or something. You might get a lot of "weird stranger, stop talking to me" looks, or polite smiles and then they look away, but you get people who respond to you, too. I have met some people that I consider to be pretty good friends I met at coffee shops and one of us just started chatting up the other. Granted, we're all "regulars" so it wasn't like we were best friends after one 40 second long conversation waiting for our coffees to be made.

It can also have a lot to do with personal proclivities and personality types. Some people are extremely introverted and wouldn't talk to classmates unless that classmate started the conversation (I was like this in my larger lecture classes in college - I didn't start to get to know my fellow classmates until I got into smaller classes of about 20-30 people). It's often up to the more extroverted or courageous person to initiate the conversation, and it sounds like you're willing to be that person.

Bottom line is, it doesn't matter whether it's in class or a bar or a coffee shop or where ever, someone has to take the initiative and start a conversation, make a connection, or it's not going to happen.