(September 25, 2014 at 9:37 am)Chas Wrote: He has a choice to make on whether or not to knuckle under to their vile demand. You castigate him unfairly.
Their demand is immoral.
They're not making a vile demand. They're making a conditional offer. Much as if I said to you "If you convert to bobism I'll send you £10". Or more specifically "if you convert to bobism you can come live with me". Was it vile of me to make that demand?
The fact that what they are offering is something the OP really NEEDS does not change the fact that its still an offer. Bed and board for coverting. Or at least giving the appearance of conversion. The thing with an offer is that while you may not think its fair, you can always turn it down and be no worse off than you were before.
The fact that they have, up to this point, given the OP bed and board for free does not make it an entitlement for that situation to continue. If I pay you £10 a week for a year it does not mean I'm morally obliged to pay you the same next year.
Outside of people to whom we consider ourselves to have obligations toward (like children) how can it be immoral to offer someone something with, or without strings? If I go to a prostitute and she offers to blow me for £60, is it immoral that she's not offering it to me for free? How about if I REEEEALLY NEED a blowjob?
I have sympathy with the OP's situation, but his situation is not his in laws fault, nor their responsibility. So far as I can see his gripe is that he's not being allowed to live in someone elses house on HIS terms.
"Peace is a lie, there is only passion.
Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
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Through passion, I gain strength.
Through strength, I gain power.
Through power, I gain victory.
Through victory, my chains are broken."
Sith code