Which is best?

[Scented Nectar]

Fear or hatred?

Both feel crappy, but hatred is better if I had to choose.

Sublimity or beauty?

The best things are both. There is too much of an overlap in these two to choose.

Self-pity or self-loathing?

Self pity. Feeling sorry for yourself can result in positive changes to fix whatever is making you feel bad. It's not a bad thing, just an awareness. Self loathing though, would be hating yourself. I can't see any good in that.

Resentment or unconditional forgiveness?

Resentment, being that it's a form of awareness about things. Unconditional forgiveness makes no sense to me, and in addition, I am unable to make myself feel an emotion that I don't actually feel. Can't do it unconditionally for that reason.

'True' love or 'free' love?

I'm not sure what these are or why they would be opposites. Are you referring to monogamy versus nonmonogamy? If so, nonmonogamy. I can never promise anyone that I will both always continue to feel sexual about them, and never feel sexual about anyone else for the rest of my life.

One 'love' or many 'loves'?

Many. I could never expect a single person to keep me feeling strong good emotions about them forever, or for them to fulfill all my emotional needs. And if you are referring specifically to sex-including love, I could also never expect myself to stay sexually infatuated with the same person forever. A good friendship has a good chance of staying forever, but the sex part not always.

Intelligence or blissful ignorance?

It would depend on what knowledge I'd be giving up versus how blissfully happy the ignorance would be. I am a bit of a hedonist, and do like my happiness!

Fully devoted commitment to a few or impartially free affection for many? (Small circle of best friends or equal friends with many?)

Few. I'm kind of selective in who I feel strongly about with what might be considered devoted commitment or affection. I don't use the word commitment though, since I refuse to feel good things about someone just because I've promised to. I actually have to authentically feel good things, can't make myself do it.