Differing degrees of rape?

[Brakeman]

If you didn't feel violated good for you. Doesn't mean that men don't feel violated by rape. Had I never been through the things I've been through, I probably wouldn't have felt violated in your situation either. ..

Ignoring the surely unintended implication that I am not a "real" man or a "normal" man because I didn't feel violated, I wanted to correct it, that, even I felt violated. I just wasn't traumatized. I wasn't scarred or damaged. Waking up to a BJ when your girlfriend didn't stay over is jarring like hitting a wall.

This rape talk is emotionally exhausting to me so, I'd like to call a truce. I started out just trying to simply answer your questions and then I let my emotions get the best of me. Sorry.

I appreciate your participation and your insights. I also apologize for getting touchy about what I interpreted as "woman-'splaining."

I am very compassionate to anyone getting hurt. I feel that society is supposed to protect it's members from unjust injury and pain. It is my compassion that brings me to the point that there are instances where some may get caught in the sharp jaws of sexual laws that were written for more serious crimes. I think intent does play a part. I'm glad that I lived in a time where the college girl that jumped me didn't get destroyed for her attack. She did something wrong, and I hope she never did that again, but I have compassion on her as an individual. I care what happened to her and I care what might happen to a girl like her in the future.

I am also a fervent gender equality believer. I would think that I would feel the same if the gender roles reversed but I'm having a real problem imagining I would because I don't think there are many women that would just "shake off" a sexual attack even if they thought it was probably just a mistake of identity or a chemically altered brain.

That's where I think I must ask a woman if she could fathom such instances to be gender equal or not. If a man in a college dorm party setting woke up a woman by licking her, and assuming he was drunk and maybe thinking it was someone else, is it plausible that a girl would react as I did or implausible?