I don't think it much matters what a particular victim of rape feels when determining what the law should be. The fact that it's traumatizing to many is sufficient. Most crimes work that way.
For example if you threaten to punch someone in the face and act like you mean it , it's assault. Actually hit him and you have a battery.* Now, there are people, most of them men, who like a good bar fight or a street brawl or simply think responding to threats with violence is part of being a man. Generally they don't ask each other permission first. It's still battery. The only question is whether they'll press charges. So you want to get into bar fights, you take your chances on the battery charges.
Similarly, proprietors of stores react differently to petty theft, though I'm sure none of them actually like it. So you shop lift and you take your chances on the results.
You rape a woman or a man and they don't much mind, or as Brakemen says, just find it icky, they can decide not to press charges. But if you rape someone you take your chances on their reaction.
*Assuming of course that you don't have permission as in a boxing match, etc.
For example if you threaten to punch someone in the face and act like you mean it , it's assault. Actually hit him and you have a battery.* Now, there are people, most of them men, who like a good bar fight or a street brawl or simply think responding to threats with violence is part of being a man. Generally they don't ask each other permission first. It's still battery. The only question is whether they'll press charges. So you want to get into bar fights, you take your chances on the battery charges.
Similarly, proprietors of stores react differently to petty theft, though I'm sure none of them actually like it. So you shop lift and you take your chances on the results.
You rape a woman or a man and they don't much mind, or as Brakemen says, just find it icky, they can decide not to press charges. But if you rape someone you take your chances on their reaction.
*Assuming of course that you don't have permission as in a boxing match, etc.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
