Aa is just a support mechanism, because what is really needed especially in the way of hard drugs and heavy drinking is a complete life style change. Because everything you did from how you processed positive input to how you coped with negativity, to your friends, to how you related with your family, co workers and even the type of job you have.. Basically any and everything you did on your own and with the people you have surrounding you, has lead to your substance abuse. The drug or drink of your choice is how (when left to your own devises) you process the sum total of your daily experience. This has to change, and the only way that it will is if you get rid of EVERYTHING in your life that has brought you to your substance of choice. For this the vast majority of people out there need support. And to ask family or friends (who aren't part of the problem will be a rare find) is flat out not fair. It is beyond a tall order if they are not already involved with your life,( and if they are they are disqualified..) to ask them to support all the wild emotions durning such a transition in everything you know while you are fighting your body who wants your drug of choice.
However there are the 1.9% who don't need anything or anyone. Why? Not because they are better than everyone, it's because they are not a product of their environment. They drink or party because that is who they are and what they will to do. They are not affected by their enviromemt they infect their environment. They are the cancer, that is killing everyone around them. Meaning they themselves are the sole reason they drink or do drugs. For them, they still need some help, but not to the degree of everyone else does. When these people are ready they will quit pretty much on their own.
Then there is the .1%ers.. These people have friends and family pray for them, and God decides to send some idiot in to get them, and rather than do AA, because someone's drug dealer see the meetings as oppertunity to sell more product, and because she keeps meeting her other looser friends there and they get into trouble.. The .1%ers and new husband beat their heads against the wall of sobriety and relaps for 5 years till one of them OD's in a barns and noble bathroom, and an ambulance is called to revive her.. Take her to the hospital release her, and a month later the county sees fit to arrest her at 3am.. Then and only then Does the .1%er hit bottom because she has burned through all the patience her family had in a 10 year period, and all her new husband had only after 5 years... After she gets out and does her state mandated stuff ms .1% never looked back..
But, even in her case everything she was (worked, lived, stores she visited, friends and family,) all had to change. People don't generally make those changes unless they have hella support. Or they are just assholes who drink and or do drugs, just to f-up everyone else around them.
However there are the 1.9% who don't need anything or anyone. Why? Not because they are better than everyone, it's because they are not a product of their environment. They drink or party because that is who they are and what they will to do. They are not affected by their enviromemt they infect their environment. They are the cancer, that is killing everyone around them. Meaning they themselves are the sole reason they drink or do drugs. For them, they still need some help, but not to the degree of everyone else does. When these people are ready they will quit pretty much on their own.
Then there is the .1%ers.. These people have friends and family pray for them, and God decides to send some idiot in to get them, and rather than do AA, because someone's drug dealer see the meetings as oppertunity to sell more product, and because she keeps meeting her other looser friends there and they get into trouble.. The .1%ers and new husband beat their heads against the wall of sobriety and relaps for 5 years till one of them OD's in a barns and noble bathroom, and an ambulance is called to revive her.. Take her to the hospital release her, and a month later the county sees fit to arrest her at 3am.. Then and only then Does the .1%er hit bottom because she has burned through all the patience her family had in a 10 year period, and all her new husband had only after 5 years... After she gets out and does her state mandated stuff ms .1% never looked back..
But, even in her case everything she was (worked, lived, stores she visited, friends and family,) all had to change. People don't generally make those changes unless they have hella support. Or they are just assholes who drink and or do drugs, just to f-up everyone else around them.
