(July 15, 2010 at 10:34 pm)In This Mind Wrote:I never was on the side of blaming the victim, not for clothing or anything else. Even if it were logical or fair somehow to do that, it would be logistically impossible. There are too many variables and unknowns needed before any determination that certain clothing increases risk. Without even a consistant correlation, assigning causation is impossible. And then, even if causation (in the form of slight risk increase) were to become apparent, it would be inhumane and unreasonable to expect women to uglify themselves. And even then, there would be a sliding scale of ugliness the borders of which would be unclear, so the only solution would be for all men and women to wear a burka to hide their genders altogether.(July 15, 2010 at 2:33 pm)Scented Nectar Wrote: TOO, no matter what the clothes or intentions regarding the casualness of sex being looked for, I think any touching should always wait for when it's clear the woman wants it. Even the seeker of the most casual "don't-even-know-his-name" sex doesn't want just anyone touching and groping her, only whoever it is she decides to have sex with that night.Which is why acting like the clothing matters is pure victim blaming. Glad you finally came around. Now if only the rest of the pricks would.
And why stop there? Since most rapes happen by men that the victim lives with, should one warn all women who choose to live in families that maybe they should have known better? That one must take massive priority over warning about clothing, since the very real repeatable statistics show it to be true. There are no such statistics on 'sexy' clothing correlating with rapes.
I'm really shitty at giving kudos and rep. That's because I would be inconsistent in remembering to do them, and also I don't really want it to show if any favouritism is happening. Even worse would be inconsistencies causing false favouritisms to show. So, fuck it. Just assume that I've given you some good rep and a number of kudos, and everyone should be happy...