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Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
#1
Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

I am a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl or anything.  I often live off platonic loves. Liking a girl who I dont even know for years, and not being able to tolerate her presence because I start trembling, sweating, stuttering, cant think clearly, and feel like my legs have a 1000 KG ball attached to them (heavy). I often feel inferior to women who are pretty (in a specific way), or to the girl I like. Recently I even feel anger because is something I can barely control. Even when I read manga, or watch TV, etc. If there is a pretty female character, I almost immediatly feel annoyed by her.  Angry

Take into account, though, that I am not shy in general. I speak well in public, and I can speak to anyone including women. EXCEPT, the girl I like. She is the only one who breaks me. 

Has anyone ever felt the same? It is like a love-hate sensation. You like her, and the same time you hate her.
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#2
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
(September 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

Somehow, I doubt that...
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition

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#3
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
(September 3, 2016 at 5:04 pm)Macoleco Wrote: Yes, so what? I know many of you will call me a faggot or whatever. Idgf

I am a 21 year old male who has never kissed a girl or anything.  I often live off platonic loves. Liking a girl who I dont even know for years, and not being able to tolerate her presence because I start trembling, sweating, stuttering, cant think clearly, and feel like my legs have a 1000 KG ball attached to them (heavy). I often feel inferior to women who are pretty (in a specific way), or to the girl I like. Recently I even feel anger because is something I can barely control. Even when I read manga, or watch TV, etc. If there is a pretty female character, I almost immediatly feel annoyed by her.  Angry

Take into account, though, that I am not shy in general. I speak well in public, and I can speak to anyone including women. EXCEPT, the girl I like. She is the only one who breaks me. 

Has anyone ever felt the same? It is like a love-hate sensation. You like her, and the same time you hate her.

Your opening statement is damn rude and disrespectful. If you already put answers in peoples mouth, why even bother asking?

And feeling perplexed, jealousy, fear or simply feeling inferior to someone you like is quite normal. Everyone feels it to various degrees, and it's mainly their own imaginations getting the better of them. Overcoming that with courage is the first step in starting a healthy relationship.
Quote:To know yet to think that one does not know is best; Not to know yet to think that one knows will lead to difficulty.
- Lau Tzu

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#4
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
Um... mommy issues?

Joking! I'm joking!

I think you need lap therapy. You need a pretty girl to sit you on her lap, burry your face into her boobs, pet your hair, and tell you everything will be ok.


"Hipster is what happens when young hot people do what old ladies do." -Exian
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#5
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
Have you tried not liking people?
"Leave it to me to find a way to be,
Consider me a satellite forever orbiting,
I knew the rules but the rules did not know me, guaranteed." - Eddie Vedder
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#6
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
They're just people, not goddesses.

I used to moderate a dating forum, and this is by far and away the most common question we got. I think basically every single person goes through this at one point or the other. My own anectodal observations are that it happens more to men, but it most certainly happens to women, too.

How do you break yourself of this pattern?

Do things not related to women you are attracted to but make you step outside of your comfort zone. Try new things. Is there anything you want to try but some little fear holds you back? Talk to people you wouldn't normally talk to (and again, I don't mean attractive women). People in the line at the grocery store, or at work, or wherever you encounter people. Do things that help you gain confidence. Take classes, go skydiving, join a knitting club if you have always wanted to knit. You have to decide this for yourself. 

OF course you are frustrated. Who wouldn't be? Sex is a powerful drive that invades every thought and action. Annoying, isn't it?
If The Flintstones have taught us anything, it's that pelicans can be used to mix cement.

-Homer Simpson
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#7
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
Have you considered a build building/sculpting program to increase your self confidence and become the attractor, rather than the attracted?

Beware the pendulum, avoid the opposite swing extreme....just raise the bar and be happy with your accomplishment.









.....faggot. Tongue
"Leave it to me to find a way to be,
Consider me a satellite forever orbiting,
I knew the rules but the rules did not know me, guaranteed." - Eddie Vedder
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#8
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
I used to be shy around some I liked. Then I asked a few out, grew inured to the "no"s, and learned that they're human too.

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#9
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
They'll all turn 70 and get all gray and shrivel up like prunes, anyway. Lust seems overrated and love seems underrated.
"For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring." - Carl Sagan
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#10
RE: Feeling inferior to pretty women (or women I like)
I am actually relatively good looking. I could kiss a girl, or get a gf if I wanted to. The thing is, I want to do it with the girl I like. And therefore I have no sexual experience.

I agree, love is underrated as c172 said. Have a platonic girl for a girl, you are a weirdo. Desiring to fuck multiple girls like a moneky, completely normal.

Fuck this society.
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