Creed's Corner: A Collection of the Morbid, Mysterious, and Mrandom

[John V]

This is a major difference between me and many others here. You seem to think that what a person is is something carved in stone. I see people as able to learn and change. You do to, actually: "This isn't a knowledge you cannot grasp, it's a skill you haven't practiced." If you really believed the "being something you're not" bit, you wouldn't make such a suggestion. But really you know that a person lacking empathy can practice and learn empathy, and become a person with empathy. They're not trying to attract others by being something they're not. They're changing who they are, and for the better. Same with the suggestions I'm making. Getting into an exercise routine isn't being something that you're not, it's changing who you are.

Bold mine. Do you realise how contradicting these two sentences are?

I realize that they're contradictory if you think the who someone is is immutable. As noted, I don't hold that view. I'm not the same person I was 10, 20, or 30 years ago. People change. you all realize this, you just use the "who I am" bit as an excuse not to put in the effort required to change. So, no, to me they're not contradictory.

You can't compare going to the gym, which is done for the individual's health to completely changing your looks, which are a way of expressing yourself. Going to the gym mainly benefits the person exercising and their physical and mental condition, while changing one's looks to fit the 'standard' is done purely to attract others. Do you not see the difference?

As noted, it's not just to attract women, it's a behavioral approach - change who you are by changing your behavior.