I think it is a bit wise to post such a thing on here. We are experts in rational thinking and separating old superstitions and patriarchal value judgments such as traces of misogyny. I think the OP knew that his feelings weren't rational and so he went to the experts to help him pick apart the confused feelings in his mind.
Privacy is no great magical thing, most of the things that tear our lives apart are done in privacy. Talking things out with friends in a forum where he is sure that her feelings and point of view will be well protected by the seasoned thinkers that visit this board is not an insult to her when we don't have her personal details.
I think the op simply needs it explained that a woman's value is in no way connected to the mileage on her vulva.
If she has had no problem in being faithful to him for three years, then she doesn't have any serious self control problems.
The op needs to be told that it is almost a certainty that he is the one with the problem, not her, and we should talk about it.
Privacy is no great magical thing, most of the things that tear our lives apart are done in privacy. Talking things out with friends in a forum where he is sure that her feelings and point of view will be well protected by the seasoned thinkers that visit this board is not an insult to her when we don't have her personal details.
I think the op simply needs it explained that a woman's value is in no way connected to the mileage on her vulva.
If she has had no problem in being faithful to him for three years, then she doesn't have any serious self control problems.
The op needs to be told that it is almost a certainty that he is the one with the problem, not her, and we should talk about it.
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