(April 21, 2015 at 9:55 am)pauloroberts Wrote: Soon after we met, I did ask her some stuff about her past, and she told me that there wasn't really much to tell. Which means that she lied, but I choose to focus more on the fact of what her history is, rather than her lie. But she did lie and i'm clarifying that now.
Depending on exactly what you asked her about her past, good for you. But if all you did was ask an open ended question about her past and she failed to realize you meant how active have you been sexually, you blew it.
(April 21, 2015 at 9:55 am)pauloroberts Wrote: I am not seeking a virgin. To say that I am is to make a false dichotomy and a strawman argument. Anyone with common sense would not make such a silly assumption, nor did I imply that I'm a prude or that I only want a virgin.
Well precisely how much screwing around would have been okay with you? With any luck she picked up some skills that you've been enjoying. Or maybe you're waiting until you're married?
I can understand feeling inadequate if your own experience has been more limited. But it is wrong to make your limited experience a virtue and devalue her on account of your self justifying standards.
At the very least you should probably let her know how badly this news has destabilized you so that she can make an informed decision whether she wants to continue with you. Try to be fair.
