RE: Do you care about your significant others sexual past with a poll.
April 22, 2015 at 4:58 pm
(This post was last modified: April 22, 2015 at 5:06 pm by paulpablo.)
(April 22, 2015 at 2:15 pm)Exian Wrote:The reason the question is being asked in this thread with a poll is because it was asked in another thread with no poll. The point I'm trying to convey is the same point that you're making. It is a very uninteresting question because the answer is going to obviously be yes to most people because sexual history (in my opinion) is multifaceted and covers many things and many of them are things that no rational person would overlook.(April 22, 2015 at 1:29 pm)paulpablo Wrote: You might possibly be correct that the root of feelings of disgust at certain sexual activities or amounts of partners might be due to jealousy but that shouldn't be assumed as a fact.Ok, I see what you're saying. I answered the poll with the assumption that jealousy was at the root, for myself. The poll asks "Do you care about your significant other's sexual history?", under that assumption, I answered no. Had the question been "Do you care if your significant other has committed sexual crimes in the past?", I would have answered "Yes". But why would that be the question? I think that would be a given, and anyone who doesn't care might not want to disclose that. It would get interesting if the question weeded out somebody who wouldn't care, but I think, for the most part, everyone would answer "yes", and it would be a terribly uninteresting conversation. Definitely non-controversial. So, assuming jealousy at the root makes for a more subjective and interesting conversation.
If someone told me they wouldn't do the things I've done sexually based on principles I wouldn't assume they were just jealous.
Yes being a pedophile is illegal if you care about it or not. I don't see what that has to do with anything. I'm saying it disgusts me, I care about it, I wouldn't date a woman who had a sexual history of being involved with children in that sort of abusive way.
It is a very simple question, but I don't think that means people have to swap definitions around or make it contraversial on purpose just to make it more interesting.
The point many people are making is the same point I made in the original thread with no poll and I'll quote myself on what I said in the original poll.
Quote:I think the question, do you care about your partners sexual history, is such a vague question because there are obviously some scenarios in which any rational person would be worried about concerning their partners sexual history.I view sexual history in a similar way to how I would view any other type of history. If someone was speaking about the military history of England they wouldn't give a numerical answer on the basis that the military history of England is the amount of times England has been at war. The same way a persons criminal history isn't the number of times they have been arrested or someones mental history isn't the amount of times they have been sectioned. That's why I don't see sexual history as the number of times a person has had sex. And that's why I can't say I wouldn't care about anything involving a partners sexual history.
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