Do you care about your significant others sexual past with a poll.

[paulpablo]

I think conversations about partners sexual history never go well.

Best left alone.

"Are you frigid or a slag?"

As to the poll question, if you're going to include stuff like sexual abuse in "sexual history" then it's obviously going to be yes for almost everyone so it's kind of pointless.

Ok I'll do a recap to clarify the point of the thread because it may have become a bit blurred or misunderstood to anyone who's only just seen this thread.

Some guy came on here and posted this....

My girlfriend and I were watching some romantic comedy the other day (not my idea, trust me), and the topic of sexual history came up. So we ended up talking about it, and it turns out that she's got quite a past.

Ok so he's about to tell everyone some of his girlfriends sexual history that she told him.

Her first time was when she was 17

When I asked her how many men she's had sex with she couldn't tell me but when I asked if it was over 20 (jokingly) she said oh yes, way more
The first time she did anal was at the age of 18
She has had a threesome on 3 separate occasions
She has kissed girls in clubs many times
She was a member of fetlife for a couple of years
She mentioned something about doing porn

So let's look at the list.  Only one of the things on the list actually talk about the numbers of people she slept with. The rest of the sexual history is what she did sexually, when she did it, who she did it with, where she did it.  No one disagreed that this (the previously quoted text) is all a part of her sexual history, it isn't just a polite code word for the number of people she's had sex with, it is what it is, an all encompassing sexual history.  It even includes what sex websites she was on.

The general response to this was asking why is he judging her, people saying they don't care about sexual history, then another thread was started and mostly everyone was unified in their opinion that sexual history is not important to them.

So my response to that is, surely everyone cares about their partners sexual history if the word sexual history is being used in the standard way and the way it was being used in the original post everyone was talking about.

I'll give an example.

A part of his girlfriends sexual history was she kissed two girls in a nightclub and she mentioned something about doing porn.

So by most people's standards on this forum these things aren't important but what about if the variables are changed?

Let's say your boyfriend/girlfriend is talking about their sexual history and they say they had sex with two children at home and they are involved in violent snuff porn.

Everyone on this forum (i assume) would care about that, therefore everyone on this forum would care about their partners sexual history.

The only way you could say you don't care about it is if you change what the definition of sexual history was in the original post and say it's just a code word for how many people they have slept with. 

Even then like I said people seem to be saying they don't care about it but they care about it because they like to be with someone with experience and aren't interested in people with no experience.