RE: Do you care about your significant others sexual past with a poll.
May 2, 2015 at 12:34 pm
(This post was last modified: May 2, 2015 at 12:44 pm by Thumpalumpacus.)
(May 2, 2015 at 4:30 am)paulpablo Wrote:(May 2, 2015 at 4:23 am)Parkers Tan Wrote: I care about my woman's past sex life in the sense that I'm not interested in prudes or virgins.
I don't care about their past sex life in the sense that I'm not interested in judging them for it.
But then if you care about your womans past sex life in the sense that you're not interested in prudes or virgins then wouldn't you say that means you are judging them based on that?
If you're already judged them to be unworthy of any of your personal interest based on either a lack of sexual contact with other people or no sexual contact with other people.
The judgement I'm rendering is about personal compatibility, not moral rectitude. "Unworthy" is an entirely inapt word for my point. I don't want a woman who is sexually neurotic or inexperienced, but that doesn't mean that I regard them as "unworthy". It means that I think the likelihood of our relationship being sexually satisfying is reduced.
I suppose I should have added the modifier "morally" in front of the word judging in my original post. I had assumed my meaning would be understood.
(May 2, 2015 at 7:09 am)paulpablo Wrote: Parkers tan I think seems to be contradicting himself because he's basically saying that he doesn't judge people based on sexual history yet he's saying based on a virgin's sexual history or a prude's sexual history of having no partners or very few partners he judges them to be not interesting.
See my reply above to address your misunderstanding.
(May 2, 2015 at 7:44 am)paulpablo Wrote: Let's say your boyfriend/girlfriend is talking about their sexual history and they say they had sex with two children at home and they are involved in violent snuff porn.
Everyone on this forum (i assume) would care about that, therefore everyone on this forum would care about their partners sexual history.
The only way you could say you don't care about it is if you change what the definition of sexual history was in the original post and say it's just a code word for how many people they have slept with.
Sexual abuse is most often about power, and psychological issues with esteem and impotence, rather than sex. No matter the age of the abuser, I wouldn't want to have sex with someone like that, on the basis of mentality, not sexual score-keeping.
And snuff porn would disturb me not because of the porn part, but because I'm not really cool with murderers.
My son's mother did a lot of stuff before we were together. I didn't care because she was a good woman, a good lover, and later, a good mother.
