RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
May 21, 2015 at 2:45 pm
(This post was last modified: May 21, 2015 at 2:52 pm by MJ the Skeptical.)
(April 20, 2015 at 3:26 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: 1) Because of his terrible attitude about it? Because he's acting like it's something to be ashamed of? If it's his preference, then (if he were real) he could have just broken up with the girl and gone and lived his own miserable life making sure he had a girlfriend with exactly the number of prior dicks as he liked and not come and whined about it.
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a. Yes, we should talk about sex more. We don't talk about it enough.
b. Clearly, according to the story presented, she didn't feel the need, and that's fine. But her not wanting to talk about it wasn't part of the narrative - the narrative is that it bothers him A WHOLE LOT but they didn't discuss it until now. That implies that she doesn't think it's a big deal, yet he is acting like it is. If it were really a big deal, he should have discussed it beforehand. If he only realizes it's a big deal now, maybe he should examine why.
c. Erm, no. There are a wide range of topics to discuss during sex. The onus is on the person who has beef with a topic to bring it up. I bring up BDSM at the start of a conversation about having sex with someone I might partner with, because it's important to me. If having a minority of dicks was important to him enough to whine about it now, perhaps he should have brought up sexual history sooner than her proving herself to be capable of bonding with him.
4) Ummmm, no I told you that I wouldn't treat a woman differently for being shitty about her sex partner. End of story. Don't like that I didn't live up to your expectations? Fucking deal with it.
Holy shit, can you at least quote me properly so I don't have to read the context of what I wrote in another window. Thanks.
1) Again, it's his opinion, let him have it. You're saying he shouldn't be ashamed? who the fuck are you to make that judgement? If some girl had this opinion of a guy I think there would be a double standards here huh? I doubt you would be upset if it was the other way around, especially with your openly feminist ideology.
2) Way to obfuscate the question. If you recall the question was, should we force people to talk about sex or topics they might be uncomfortable with? no, screw you, you may suggest it to be so, but it's not a requirement nor should it be. I'm not actually criticizing anyone other than the people telling the OP what to think and shaming him for his opinion that he wants a partner who's been with less people and I can sympathize with that. I'm saying let each person have their own opinion on relationships and fuck off. Who are you to place onus on anyone to say anything? you're too fucking stupid to realize you're siding with the woman unfairly because you're a feminist twat.
3) You ducked #3 so thanks the concession there.
4) Well being open about who you've been with and what you've done is a big deal just like being open about having Herpes or Aids is on the person who has those diseases and the onus is on us all to be open to whoever we're with, you don't have to be asked it to explain it for fuck sakes. And if he doesn't feel comfortable talking about sex, that's none of your fucking concern and my original criticism against the other radical feminist who chastised the OP is still valid.
(April 20, 2015 at 5:46 pm)SteelCurtain Wrote:(April 20, 2015 at 1:06 pm)Godslayer Wrote: Well if it's a troll post, my bad. But if he doesn't want to date her because of how many guys she's fucked, who the fuck are you to shame him? it's his preference, and why you people are hypocrites for not realizing that he has as much right to like what he likes as the girl who gets around that you are defending.
Again, Godslayer, you bend what is actually happening here to fit your own narrative.
The guy can want whatever he wants. If he wants a girl with a less colorful sexual history, by all means, good for him. What we were commenting about was the way he portrayed this person on the internet to a bunch of strangers, and how he waited 3 years to ask a question which has an answer that apparently is a deal breaker for him. Whether it comes up naturally or not, if the answer could easily be something you can't live with, you need to ask that question.
Dude or ma'am, you're an idiot. The OP was not slut-shaming his partner like the original feminist idiot straw manned him to be saying. The only one trying to fit a narrative is you people who for some reason think it's slut-shaming to voice your opinion that you're not okay with a partner with a long sexual history.
The girl he's talking about will never know this shit ever existed, he's the one trying to get advice from people here and a bunch of idiots shit on him. I don't necessarily agree with what he's saying but jesus fucking christ if anyone is shaming anyone it's the feminist lynch mob and SJW's here.
(April 21, 2015 at 12:30 am)Kitty Galore Wrote:(April 20, 2015 at 2:37 pm)Godslayer Wrote: What does a different thread have to do with this one? but thanks for exploiting my anxiety issues from another thread, douche alert...
1) I agree, but why can't he have his preference?
2) Sometimes this stuff never comes up, ya know? And if this is a troll post, then who cares right? if it's fake it's fake.
3) Comparing sexual consent to speaking about your relationships is a slippery slope, at worst...
4) I don't align with them, I just happen to think he should have his preferences without prejudice, like you people are saying about the girl how she should be able to fuck who she wants to, which I agree with, but you should also agree that he should have the right to not like that, even if it was never discussed. You can argue whether he should tell his story but if a girl tells the exact same story are you just as outraged? try and pretend you would be, cmon...
#2 If you are in more than a casual relationship this stuff should come up, especially if it is so important to a person that they can't get over it. It isn't rocket science. It is common sense.
You're idea of should is irrelevant. We're all different in our sexuality and how we express it. I actually agreed that he should have asked earlier but he didn't, so what? He knows now and isn't okay with it, is that okay with the feminist lynch mob? is it okay that he's not okay with it? Us men desperately need the approval of those who would tell us how we should act and feel.
If the hypothetical idea of an afterlife means more to you than the objectively true reality we all share, then you deserve no respect.
