RE: Some thoughts about my girlfriend's sexual past
May 21, 2015 at 3:01 pm
(This post was last modified: May 21, 2015 at 3:02 pm by MJ the Skeptical.)
(April 20, 2015 at 9:00 pm)Judi Lynn Wrote:(April 20, 2015 at 3:18 pm)Godslayer Wrote: 1) Then why shame him at all, it's his fucking preference what he likes and what stories he tells, you are a moron for not accepting this.
Because the way he went about it was childish and disrespectful. If he was THAT concerned about what ever past she might have, why wait 3 years into a relationship to get bitter about it? If it was so important to his so-called "values" then I would think the subject of sexual history would have come up within the first three months of dating. If he didn't like the answer at that point, he could easily walk away and end it there. No need to think he wasted three years of either one of their time. Point is - the way he handled it was out of line and apparently his values aren't all that great if he chose to be with a woman for three years before showing any signs of concern over her past.
Like I said before - her past is her past. She doesn't live there anymore. Personally we don't have to "accept" anything. Just as he doesn't have to accept what's being said about it. And no one is a moron for that.
Let me also add that he has made ONE post. Started ONE thread and hasn't contributed since. 79 comments and nothing from him.
Obvious troll.
1) Who cares how long he waits.
2) So what if he's bitter about it.
3) You're not looking at it from a fundamentalist theists standpoint, sex doesn't really come up for them, so of course it's not going to come up much if at all.
4) Again, like I told one of your cronies, What you think should come up is irrelevant.
5) Uh, he was contemplating leaving her, and the feminist lynch mob called him a piece of shit slut-shamer for voicing his opinion. Troll or not.
6) Out of line for you, again, context is key. You can't just enforce your personal preference on people's sex lives. You people are the only one's shaming anyone, not him.
7) Well she could have fibbed, or told a white lie, or anything, we don't know. So what is he supposed to do? force her to explain her past? what if she didn't want to until 3 years into it? You're making quote a bit of assumptions about what he should of done but not her, because none of us has the full context of what happened.
8) Her past is her past? lol so is his past his past? even if he has Aids? shouldn't he tell her that? It's directly analogous to how he feels about promiscuous partners.
(May 21, 2015 at 2:59 pm)Iroscato Wrote:(May 21, 2015 at 2:45 pm)Godslayer Wrote: Holy shit, can you at least quote me properly so I don't have to read the context of what I wrote in another window. Thanks.
1) Again, it's his opinion, let him have it. You're saying he shouldn't be ashamed? who the fuck are you to make that judgement? If some girl had this opinion of a guy I think there would be a double standards here huh? I doubt you would be upset if it was the other way around, especially with your openly feminist ideology.
2) Way to obfuscate the question. If you recall the question was, should we force people to talk about sex or topics they might be uncomfortable with? no, screw you, you may suggest it to be so, but it's not a requirement nor should it be. I'm not actually criticizing anyone other than the people telling the OP what to think and shaming him for his opinion that he wants a partner who's been with less people and I can sympathize with that. I'm saying let each person have their own opinion on relationships and fuck off. Who are you to place onus on anyone to say anything? you're too fucking stupid to realize you're siding with the woman unfairly because you're a feminist twat.
3) You ducked #3 so thanks the concession there.
4) Well being open about who you've been with and what you've done is a big deal just like being open about having Herpes or Aids is on the person who has those diseases and the onus is on us all to be open to whoever we're with, you don't have to be asked it to explain it for fuck sakes. And if he doesn't feel comfortable talking about sex, that's none of your fucking concern and my original criticism against the other radical feminist who chastised the OP is still valid.
Dude or ma'am, you're an idiot. The OP was not slut-shaming his partner like the original feminist idiot straw manned him to be saying. The only one trying to fit a narrative is you people who for some reason think it's slut-shaming to voice your opinion that you're not okay with a partner with a long sexual history.
The girl he's talking about will never know this shit ever existed, he's the one trying to get advice from people here and a bunch of idiots shit on him. I don't necessarily agree with what he's saying but jesus fucking christ if anyone is shaming anyone it's the feminist lynch mob and SJW's here.
You're idea of should is irrelevant. We're all different in our sexuality and how we express it. I actually agreed that he should have asked earlier but he didn't, so what? He knows now and isn't okay with it, is that okay with the feminist lynch mob? is it okay that he's not okay with it? Us men desperately need the approval of those who would tell us how we should act and feel.
The OP is a troll, he's done the exact same post on several forums, not to mention the EXACT SAME replies on each thread he created. Just let the thread die...
I already addressed the troll aspect long ago. I don't care, the subsequent replies are still wrong.
If the hypothetical idea of an afterlife means more to you than the objectively true reality we all share, then you deserve no respect.
