(April 2, 2012 at 11:44 am)whateverist Wrote:(April 1, 2012 at 11:50 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Stop giving a fuck.
Words to live by. Want to be interesting? Get interested, very interested, so interested that you lose track if anyone is giving a shit. Next time you're with people you'll have to beat them off with a stick.
No fucking kidding. "You're always in your garden! You're always doing schoolwork! Why don't you want to hang out?! Don't you want to watch movies?" Well, frankly, no I don't want to watch movies, and no I don't want you to "help" me in the garden.
If someone had told me 15 years ago that the best penis magnet in the world was ignoring a guy and him realizing that whatever you were doing was 100x more absorbing than his attention, I might not have suffered self-esteem issues.
Now I chuckle when my friend Niall, who grew up in his father's nursery, announces to my "suitors," "There are thousands upon thousands of interesting plants. If you think you can compete with that, your ego is sorely fuckin' mistaken."
And for some reason this makes the dipshits try harder, because it makes it their personal mission then to prove that they're worthy of notice, even though I'm not really worth that sort of effort. Amusing...until I get tired of it and ignore them and then hear their complaints about how I don't have time for them, and that I'm stuck up, and really I warned them in the beginning.
Truth is, I make time for the ones who are genuinely interesting and who I can actually share things with - friends or lovers. And most of them are busy too, doing what makes them great, so it works out.
Aergus, from personal experience, guys I've met IRL might chat me up a bit just for having tits and a vag and being in the same group, but it's when they realize I have things to talk about and a passion that makes them really come alive - whether or not they have one of their own. If you spent some time just working on you and the things you're interested in, getting yourself published or whatever and some experience under your belt, you'd find that other people would light up out of curiosity of finding out what makes you tick.
People are perverse and love a puzzle more than anything else. Most assume that everyone needs someone and those of us that mosey along without that need are mysterious and (my favorite over-used descriptor) "intriguing."