(July 4, 2015 at 11:16 pm)Pyrrho Wrote:(July 4, 2015 at 6:06 pm)paulpablo Wrote:
What you say about it adding excitement if your wife came at you with a knife isn't what I mean when I mean an unstable kind of love. It actually annoys me when people say cliché things like the best people to have sex with are the crazy ones.
What I mean when I say I've found love in unstable relationships with girls to be more exciting I mean unstable as in they play very hard to get, you don't know when/if they're going to reply to your txts, answer your calls,
I think the expression people use for this sort of thing is being "kept on your toes." It's something that increases the thrill of the chase for me.
You are mixing in emotions with your idea of the thrill of the chase. The thrill of the chase is a separate feeling from the feeling of love. That is a different example than the one I gave (fear) about a combination of emotions, though your idea may also contain feelings of fear, as one may fear that one will fail in the chase. The thrill of the chase is something one may feel in hunting a deer, but that does not mean that one loves the deer one is hunting.
The extra intensity that you may feel is from a combination of emotions, not in the feeling of love being greater.
But a personality is part of a who a person is, and I might love someone because a part of their personality is playing hard to get and results in giving me a thrill. The same way girls often fall in love with guys who can make them laugh.
This is kind of another thing I find annoying about the modern concept of love. That it's separate from loving a person because measurable practical substantial things about that person and it's almost like a supernatural force working without cause.
The fact is most people fall in "love" with people who have a similar position of power and attraction to them and have the charm to back it up. That charm may be playing hard to get, it might be comedy value, some people fall in love with totally manipulative bastards.
Are you ready for the fire? We are firemen. WE ARE FIREMEN! The heat doesn’t bother us. We live in the heat. We train in the heat. It tells us that we’re ready, we’re at home, we’re where we’re supposed to be. Flames don’t intimidate us. What do we do? We control the flame. We control them. We move the flames where we want to. And then we extinguish them.
Impersonation is treason.
