(April 15, 2017 at 11:44 am)godlessheatheness Wrote: So I finally bit the bullet and posted on facebook. I said that I am an atheist and I didn't think it was fair that Christians could post all of the christian stuff but as an atheist I felt worried about posting, so I basically said that was changing that day! Ever since then I've openly posted things I thought were funny! That was 2 days ago and I have very stratigically been avoiing talking to my family.
You know, no messages, no phone calls, blah blah. Even though I really wanted to call my dad at times, I still avoided it.
Soooo I had heard nothing from them for two days so I just enjoyed being free to be me! Until today. I received a message today from my grandmother and here it is.
Quote:Good morning! I saw on your FB page that you are an atheist. We all have one life to live to make our decisions about life and death - we all have to choose our path. I love you so much and respect that you can choose what you want. Just research your choices - we all have an eternity to live with them. I'm sending you a few youtube videos to watch. I hope you'll watch them and it'll help with your decisions. You've got [My son] that you'll take with you.
Here's the fantastically hilarious links, just in case you're curious.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xn_l2yS6H2o - this guy is babbling about how on the 23rd of September the star of Bethlehem will be visible.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDRj3MsN...0X&index=2 - Uh another video about the 23rd of September.
Not sure how any of this is supposed to make me change my mind.
Quote:I'm not judging you - I love you and want you to be sure.
I'll just say I'm sure. for sure. But this is my grandmother so I have to be polite, here's what I finally decided to say in response.
Quote:Mimi I love you guys so much, It's not something I took lightly.. I did a lot of research and this is what I feel is right. I've never been so sure.
I typed and retyped that a lot. My goal was to not start an argument but to explain myself.
So That's all I have for now. if things get interesting I will update ya'll.
That is a pretty mild response, all be it still passive aggressive with the "we all have an eternity to live with them". She respects you but still worships a god who will torture you forever for not kissing his ass? So she loves something she has never seen more than her own family?
I am sure your family loves you, but I am also sure they don't understand how selfish and narcissistic that post was. They have it so deeply ingrained that they are right, the thought of being wrong frightens them. My younger sister got it far worse when she first came out.
If you want them to get used to it, best bet is not to make a battle out of it. Be firm and if they bring it up remind them that they brought it up and if they do they must either be willing to listen, or simply not bring it up. You have a right to post what you want on your page no matter what. I kept my social media separate from my mom because we were not into the same things, not just on that subject. It didn't matter because I called her on the phone every day and saw her almost every day.
If they suck the life out of you in person and wont leave it alone, that is something you don't have to put up with. If they can handle it but still are up to you being around them, then show them other things that say you still love them, like doing things with them, or for them without that topic being brought up.
If you don't let them bait you and you simply do the things you did before, they will grow to get used to it even if they never understand you. You have a right to be you but from now on, when you see that it might get angry on either side, know when to back off and don't let them emotionally blackmail you into silence either. You may both simply have to end up agreeing not to discuss it.
