RE: Using sir and ma'am to address people...
June 30, 2017 at 12:01 am
(This post was last modified: June 30, 2017 at 12:08 am by Whateverist.)
(June 28, 2017 at 10:06 am)mlmooney89 Wrote:(June 27, 2017 at 6:13 pm)Godscreated Wrote: Politeness is not a societal rule it's just good ol' manners to treat people with respect and others need to learn that we in the south are raised to respect others. I always hold the door open for ladies even when they say that I shouldn't treat them that way, yeah I've had that said to me, some perceived societal rules just suck.
GC
I hold the door open for everybody, granted the men usually take it from me but I still try. I think manners and society's rule are one in the same concept. Society dictates what good manners are which is why different cultures think different kinds of manners are appropriate. I get what you are saying though. I just don't want to put my idea of manners above letting someone be who they are. (ie I don't want to force ma'am on someone that doesn't identify as a female all the time and if my idea of manners needs to be tweaked for that I accept it)
Amazing to consider that without God, manners can't be objective. And unless manners are objective, they can't be facts. So unless you've got God, you're just a monkey in a suit doing a dance, you know?
(June 28, 2017 at 1:53 pm)mlmooney89 Wrote:(June 27, 2017 at 7:15 pm)chimp3 Wrote: Using diminutives is a southern habit and I find it quite rude. Calling customers, patients, etc "Honey Baby" or "Sweetie Pie' is insulting. These are terms reserved for very small children. Just because I bought a hamburger off of you does not make me your child. Southern respect , my ass!
You and I would clash very badly in person. I call everyone darlin, sweetie, and say 'oh honey' when someone does summin silly.
(June 28, 2017 at 1:52 pm)Khemikal Wrote: LOL, so...in every southern "sir" or "ma'am" there's a teensy tiny "fuck you".
Nope, I honestly mean every sir or ma'am I have ever said. If I don't say sir/ma'am to you in person THEN you know I'm being bitchy and don't like you. *whisper* (But no matter if I like you or not I will say Ms/Mr with your last name)
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Sorry, I was just imagining you saying it in a French maid's outfit looking back over your shoulder.
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What were you saying again?
(June 29, 2017 at 11:42 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: Well, to me it's a sign of respect. I often use it. Like when I need to get by someone at the store and someone is in my way i'll say "Excuse me ma'am/sir''
Try this one next time.
"Dafuq out of my way, homey" and then stare at them for about 10 seconds before you let them know you were just kidding.
