a new atheist and marriage

[Hammok Man]

I think there are a lot of conservatives that do not believe in god. They play along with the social normality of their peer group because it is just as easy to not make a big deal out of what at the end of the day is a personal thing (belief in god). I think that the dynamic of your relationship with your fiance is really no ones business but yours. I will say that a relationship based on two equals is always more stable and rewarding. You both should think in terms of we, you are a team and collectively you will create a better existence than you ever could as two individuals. Do not get hung up on gender rolls and what other people think, that can all change in an instant. Continue to learn and better yourselves so new experiences open up for you both.

So do not feel that you are alone in holding conservative ideals. In general most atheists are left leaning, some are pretty extreme. Extremists think that anyone with conservative ideals is a stupid racist who's perspective deserve only ridicule.