My biological sister and I had different dads, we were both adopted at a young age, and our older brother and sister stayed in the family and we all share the same mother. Half of us the same dad. My younger sister had a different biological dad but the same mother. Her adoptive father passed away as I just heard today.
Most of our family is religious. My younger sister and I are both atheists. I just now read a post where her adoptive father died. It sucks, I know, I lost my adoptive mother last year as most know.
But it took me everything not to scream at all the "well wishers" and the bullshit double standard when a believer dies, we keep our mouths shut, but when our loved ones die, we STILL have to keep our mouths shut.
I hated biting my lip when it was MY ADOPTIVE MOM and all her friends were saying "Prayer this and God that" and I still could not mourn the way I wanted. It was worse at her memorial because even though she was a Catholic and I gave her a Catholic priest to speak, that asshole still could not leave it with talking about her, which I would have been fine with. No, he had to use it to look at me and threaten me with his fictional sky hero and and say while LOOKING AT ME, " You better find God before it is too late"
That is not well wishing, that is not empathy, that is a fucking advertisement. I could have handled the god talk if he had not used it to try to scare me.
I really hate this double standard.
Most of our family is religious. My younger sister and I are both atheists. I just now read a post where her adoptive father died. It sucks, I know, I lost my adoptive mother last year as most know.
But it took me everything not to scream at all the "well wishers" and the bullshit double standard when a believer dies, we keep our mouths shut, but when our loved ones die, we STILL have to keep our mouths shut.
I hated biting my lip when it was MY ADOPTIVE MOM and all her friends were saying "Prayer this and God that" and I still could not mourn the way I wanted. It was worse at her memorial because even though she was a Catholic and I gave her a Catholic priest to speak, that asshole still could not leave it with talking about her, which I would have been fine with. No, he had to use it to look at me and threaten me with his fictional sky hero and and say while LOOKING AT ME, " You better find God before it is too late"
That is not well wishing, that is not empathy, that is a fucking advertisement. I could have handled the god talk if he had not used it to try to scare me.
I really hate this double standard.
