(June 3, 2018 at 4:24 am)LastPoet Wrote:(June 3, 2018 at 2:46 am)LadyForCamus Wrote: Frankly, I think a lot of people here enjoy poking at him, so that they can stand back and shake their heads in disappointment when he spirals out. What he said to ShellB was wrong and uncalled for, and I have explicitly told him so. (Crazily, he didn’t play the victim or accuse me of attacking him), but there are a lot of presumptions about his personality that I think are simply erroneous. And, as far as drama goes, comparing him to EP is definitely poking at the hive, lol. We sit here and tell him to stop going on and on about the EP thing; accuse him of not being able to let it go and move past it; “shut up about EP already, Hammy, why can’t you just stop?”, but when a disagreement or an argument is bubbling up, it’s fair to whip that out of the holster and provoke him wit it?
He called Kimbyrle a cunt too on a mafia game. Kim asked him to not use that word again and he went on his 5 page tirades to excuse himself telling kim had the fault of it, instead of apologizing and moving on. When I told him he was out of line he attacked me to the point of using my quality as staff member to do it. It was not the first time either.
I only saw what he said to Shell a few minutes ago. Honestly if I saw someone calling my wife a bitch and a cunt in real life, that I deserved better, I would need to restart my anger management sessions.
Enabling him and dismissing this solves nothing.
Just to say, as I read it at the time, he didn't call kimbyrle a cunt; he said "implies the COMPLETE OPPOSITE to what you cunting claim it implies". Now on a second reading, and especially in light of what he has said to shell, maybe that's more ambiguous. But at the time, I read it as a misunderstanding rather than a 'gendered slur'... so that's why I felt compelled to speak up about it, but if he had outright called a woman a cunt and a bitch, as he has now, I would not, and will not defend it; it's out of order and his bed to make and lie in. I just did not like to see what I saw as a misunderstanding leading to all this shit, so felt compelled by conscience to speak up about that.
The problem is, you guys are (or were... who knows now) all my friends, so that puts me in a very awkward position and always has. So unless I can mediate... which from long experience I've learnt I can't do in this situation... it's my policy to stay out of politics and not take sides... especially since most of the time, all sides have valid grievances. I know that makes me pretty aloof, but otherwise it would just be endless eggshells and office politics and I don't want any part of that.