(June 3, 2018 at 11:19 am)Joods Wrote:(June 3, 2018 at 9:51 am)LadyForCamus Wrote: Yeah, that’s the thing. Hammy is 100% responsible for the things he says to people, autism or no. He needs to learn social and communication skills, as well as coping mechanisms to the best of his ability just like anyone else in order to have healthy relationships, and function in society. IMO, the backlash he got for calling ShellB that word was totally justified, and I hope that in the future he will reconsider its derogatory connotation here in the States before using it so flippantly. He did not care for that backlash so he chose to leave of his own free will. All that being said...
...it does seem to me at times, that the people who complain the most about his outbursts are the same people who bait him into arguments. That is a choice as well. Now, obviously I’m not in every thread every day, and I don’t see every fight that happens, so I freely admit I could be missing important context here. I could be wrong. I’m just saying that’s how it appears from my end.
I have had him on ignore for nearly a month now. The problem is when he responds to a thread I make or he quotes me, I get a notification about it. Usually I'll ignore it. But many times, he too, baits others. What led up to the temp banning of him and EP1 was both of them could not stop baiting one another. He pushed buttons. Obviously EP1 wasn't solely to blame there, however, Hammy knows exactly how to engage with others. NO ONE here is perfect. But he seems to go on and on about how he is so infallible and brutally honest and never starts anything. All of that is bullshit. For him to refuse to hold himself accountable is a major problem. Having other people point it out to him does him no good if he refuses to learn from each situation he finds himself in. And if he attacks people who were his friends and suddenly wonders why they are no longer his friends, then he needs to think about why that is.
I've put him on ignore in the past too. My problems with him started over two years ago and they don't need to be aired out here but let me just say that I too, was once good friends with him. For my own sanity, I pulled my friendship back. I tried being nice to him until it got to the point that I realized that he wants a certain type of friend. He only wants friends who agree with him or who coddle him. I told him numerous times that I wasn't the type of person that sugar-coated anything. I also hate being lied to. He knew that.
You have a different relationship with him than I had. I can only hope that he's not taking advantage of your friendship like he did to me. I can only hope that he has respect for you when you tell him you don't want to keep talking about the same thing so he apologizes, but still continues to push boundaries. And then apologize even more when you point out that you are still talking about what you don't want to talk about. He doesn't listen to the needs of his friends because it's always got to be all about him.
Take a look at this thread. How many pages have been devoted to giving him attention here? He's getting exactly what he wants and he's not even here to participate. Good or bad - he's getting all the attention that he wants and he's super happy about it. And he'll read this (in guest mode) and reassure those he's talking with in private that that isn't true and that I'm disingenuous and not being honest and I'm a lying bitch and all that. And I don't really care. My point is - this shit should be split away from this thread because this thread isn't supposed to be about one singular person, but it's turned into exactly that.
Small correction, it as pool the matey. EP never crossed with EP. Weird shit but I remember odd stuff for a reason.
