(June 4, 2018 at 7:14 pm)ignoramus Wrote: MJ. I see your point, but in Hammy's defence, when he insults people, by his own admission, he cannot feel or understand why it's insulting.
Our point is that it still a thread killer when he does it. And he carries his grievances over multiple threads.
He knows what he's doing. It is intentional. As Shell and Joods said: being on the spectrum does not manifest as asshole, unless you also want to come across as that.Which he chooses to. He's also on the NPD spectrum.
Yes, well I understand your point there... it seems to me only prudent that if you don't understand grey areas and how certain words could affect people... it makes sense not to use those words... ie to err on the side of caution... and that's the advice I give him.
As to the second thing, that seems to me to be an obsessional need for closure... ie if he says x and someone else says y, then z, then he may still obsessively be trying to get x addressed, often more literally than most people would read it... and in your example, dragging that x across from thread to thread; even if the other person thinks they've addressed it, they may not have in his view. You see that as intentional but I see that as obsessional. Does it have a bad effect?, maybe, but I don't see it as intentional.
