(June 4, 2018 at 7:52 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: I was talking to him quite a bit earlier today. He seems to jump back and forth between agreeing with me that he needs to be better at controlling his behavior, and saying people provoked him first and he needs to react by defending himself. He did tell me that it's incredibly hard for him to just ignore comments and let things go, etc, which I already knew. He said that he can do it for a while until he feels like he just can't anymore. It definitely seems like a compulsive thing. Not saying that it can't be controlled, just saying that it's harder for him to do so than it is for the average person.
Yeah. Well my advice to him is not to play the blame game... I don't want to play it... or in the terminology being used here, 'enable' it... and for his sake I don't think he should either... because that's just incidental and external. Ie there'll always be arguments and other unpleasant external situations in life but blaming externally never deals with the underlying problems. Ie we can't control our circumstances only our response... mindfulness etc.