(September 18, 2015 at 1:25 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote:(September 18, 2015 at 1:17 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Eh, if I got all defensive and upset, I'm sure I'd get some sort of negative remark for that too.
Those are not the only two options. It's not like the whole emotional and intellectual gambit is only politeness and insults. I think sometimes forums make it seem that way, but it's not that case.
How do you genuinely feel about being called a phony? That's what I'd be far more interested in hearing. I'm far more interested in people's honest opinions and feelings about stuff, rather than someone who just attempts to be nice to everybody. Genuineness goes way farther with me than politeness. Jackasses like GodsChild isn't really being genuine either. He's just here to stir the shit. You are sort of the opposite. Just here to leave a good impression. I think I could pretty much predict most of your answers.
Mostly in my real life and in these forums I'm sort of drawn towards interesting people. The more interesting the better. Someone who gives stock answers isn't that interesting to me.
Ok Capn, how should I have responded?
Obviously I don't like being called a phony, and I've thoroughly expressed how I feel about it in a different thread that got shut down a couple months ago. I already told you my "politeness" (which I consider nothing more than normal, human, common courtesy), is true to how I am. People are going to think what they think. I'm not gonna argue with you about how you perceive me. If the fact that I won't do so just "reinforces" my phoniness to you, so be it. Respectfully and no offense, but I have better things to do with my time.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly."
-walsh
-walsh