RE: Objectifying women
May 19, 2010 at 11:42 am
(This post was last modified: May 19, 2010 at 11:51 am by tavarish.)
So if I have a sign on my car saying "I have $1000 in the glovebox", will that make my car more or less likely to get broken into?
Seriously, I'm all for women flaunting their stuff, but please realize there are risks involved. Again, back to a car analogy - I work on my car to make it look better and faster, but with this, I attract attention, both good and bad, and there's always a risk I'll wake up with nothing in my driveway, so I'm extra careful. Pretending that the risk doesn't exist doesn't magically make the risk go away, and it doesn't remove my obligations to take such safeguards against theft, and in the woman's case - rape.
If you're walking with your tits and ass hanging out - by all means, go for it. Just carry a tazer or a gun, cause things do happen, and it's easier to wave a gun and diffuse a situation than to go through years of therapy and never feeling clean.
It's funny that everytime there's a case of rape the man is automatically guilty, same as in a domestic violence suit.
Something similar happened to a patient of my mom's. A young girl came in and said she and her boyfriend were having sex when her parents came home and found them out. She later claimed he raped her, and now they're broken up and the parents are pressing charges. She then went to the clinic to see if she was pregnant, and to find a way to get her parents to drop the charges.
I'm not saying this is the majority of situations, but it does happens, and just because a woman yells "rape" doesn't mean it actually happened that way.
I see Eilonnwy arguing more from emotion than from a detached view.
And another quick rant.
Wearing revealing clothing means people will look at you if you can pull it off. I don't understand why women are surprised or disgusted when men stare at them when they wear clothes made for that kind of stuff. You know what you looked like coming out of the house this morning, cut the bullshit.
If I cut a hole in my jeans so you could see my nutsack, I wouldn't be surprised when people look.
Seriously, I'm all for women flaunting their stuff, but please realize there are risks involved. Again, back to a car analogy - I work on my car to make it look better and faster, but with this, I attract attention, both good and bad, and there's always a risk I'll wake up with nothing in my driveway, so I'm extra careful. Pretending that the risk doesn't exist doesn't magically make the risk go away, and it doesn't remove my obligations to take such safeguards against theft, and in the woman's case - rape.
If you're walking with your tits and ass hanging out - by all means, go for it. Just carry a tazer or a gun, cause things do happen, and it's easier to wave a gun and diffuse a situation than to go through years of therapy and never feeling clean.
(May 19, 2010 at 11:41 am)Dotard Wrote: And your link does nothing to prove your case. It is NOT about, "well, she was wearing skinny jeans so it's her fault"
It's about judges not buying into the rape story because they were convinced it was consensual. You seem to believe just because one claims rape, then it really was rape. You seem to think it NEVER EVER happens that a woman will consent to sex, then when she doesn't get a call the next day or the guy says "thanks for the fun" and goes his own way some women will claim "rape" as a retailitory move because she got her "feelings hurt".
Men are never innocent and women are SOOOOO persecuted because they actually have to PROVE a rape occured.
Who's the ignorant one here again?
It's funny that everytime there's a case of rape the man is automatically guilty, same as in a domestic violence suit.
Something similar happened to a patient of my mom's. A young girl came in and said she and her boyfriend were having sex when her parents came home and found them out. She later claimed he raped her, and now they're broken up and the parents are pressing charges. She then went to the clinic to see if she was pregnant, and to find a way to get her parents to drop the charges.
I'm not saying this is the majority of situations, but it does happens, and just because a woman yells "rape" doesn't mean it actually happened that way.
I see Eilonnwy arguing more from emotion than from a detached view.
And another quick rant.
Wearing revealing clothing means people will look at you if you can pull it off. I don't understand why women are surprised or disgusted when men stare at them when they wear clothes made for that kind of stuff. You know what you looked like coming out of the house this morning, cut the bullshit.
If I cut a hole in my jeans so you could see my nutsack, I wouldn't be surprised when people look.
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