Nor, did I state you were blaming anyone. When you give somone advice, warning, instruction though that's unsolicited; it's percieved with intent. You have to realize that first. If a girl said man theese guys keep grabbing my ass, what should I do tav to get them to stop? That's when you can easily rationally explain the male-female dynamics, without any talk of blame or slighting their feelings of accountability. When that same advice is on the side or unsolicited, then it forces the person to assess your reasons for saying that, which usually involoves accountability. They're already a victim so they would naturally assume your accountability rests with them. It's not what you're saying tav.. I get it. It's how and when you say it, your tact, that is the crux of this I think.
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
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