Objectifying women

[VoiceOfReason]

DMVs are usually privately operated, but they usually have a central hiring station and human resource department. What state? I'm only familiar with those on the East Coast.

Life isn't fair, but you do have cards at your disposal you're not using.

I'm Canadian. Each DMV is completely independent here, no central hiring or HR. Also, you seem to think I've done nothing about this, when I have. My boss has made an agreement with me that if someone gets too inappropriate, I can have a 'computer error' and she will handle it for me. It's a good arrangement, but one that I feel should not be necessary. This is a professional environment, if you want our services I feel you should behave in a respectful and professional manner.

I really don't understand the issue. You're angry because in a position where you have face to face contact with hundreds of people a week, some men take it upon themselves to try to ask you out? If it's such an issue, why work there? Obviously the reward outweighs the risk - or you're a glutton for punishment.

This is the first 'professional'-type job I have had- and if I play this right I might be able to get into government work.
Also my problem is not so much being asked out as much as the way it happens. When a balding 47-year old who drives a '93 Ford flashes an open wallet with about $150.00 in tens at you, asks "So, you like the ching-ching?" and lewdly licks his lips, you can't help but feel cheapened, outraged, and a bit like crying. Most encounters are not as bad as that. But the bottom line is that this is a DMV, not a dating service. Show some respect.

Conversely, if we look at an industry catered to women, for instance, romance novels, then the tables are turned as far as protagonists and role models go.

I wouldn't know. I don't bother with romances as I find them boring. In case it wasn't obvious, I prefer action or adventure. Maybe I am simply used to an industry that is not aimed at me.

You want intelligent female roles? Didn't they just make a second Sex and the City movie with 4 main female roles - all of them successful? How about any of the countless romantic comedies where the man is portrayed as a bumbling idiot and the woman as a professional? Did you suddenly forget about those?

As I just mentioned, I cannot stand romance or rom-coms. I do know a little about Sex and the City, and as far as I am aware it's about 4 women whose lives revolve around fashion, sex and romance. Nothing new or special about that.

Have you seen the movie Precious? The main character isn't exactly scarred/deformed, but she is certainly 180 degrees removed from a Britney Spears lookalike, and it won best picture at the Oscars this year, along with a host of other awards.

No, but when I get a chance I might check it out if it is good.

My point was that saying a woman 'contributed' to her attack is ignorant. Most rapists know their victims and choose them for vulnerability and ease of scaring them to not tell, not sit on a street corner picking out which woman is most attractive to him.

1. Do you have any insight to what most rapists think?

According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, 38% of victims were raped by a friend or acquaintance, 28% by "an intimate" and 7% by another relative, and 26% were committed by a stranger to the victim.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_statis...Statistics

Being a topic of interest to me, I do my research. 74% of victims are not randomly selected on the street, but are attacked by someone they know.