(July 9, 2010 at 12:38 am)tavarish Wrote: And this is exactly what people are not saying in this thread. What me and others are saying is that women who wear revealing clothing may attract attention, and should safeguard against any ill that can happen from this. Some is unavoidable, but that doesn't mean all of it is.
So, what you are saying it that it IS my responsibility to be a 'nice girl' and thus avoid being raped. Because 'nice girls' who don't wear revealing clothes, don't get raped.
A woman shouldn't do anything to attract attention to herself, because then she is contributing to her own rape. That is what you are saying. A woman has a responsibility not to attract attention to herself, otherwise she will be raped. That is what you are saying.
Quote:That doesn't mean that you can't have control over the situation should it occur. This is why safeguarding against and diffusing issues is key.
So be a 'nice girl' and it won't happen.
Quote:Yes you should. Unfortunately we don't live in a fantasy world where no one gets hurt. It's not your fault if something happens to you, but more often than not, there are ways of avoiding situations and staying alert to your surroundings. That's the only thing I'm talking about.
So, if I'd been more alert, I wouldn't have been attacked. I shouldn't have been focusing on doing my job, I should have been focusing on assuming all men are rapists. That is what you are saying.