(July 10, 2010 at 6:18 pm)Godhead Wrote: I'm not putting women who have been attacked on trial. I'm giving simple common sense advice to women to be careful and avoid risky situations as much as they can, for their own safety. There's a difference between giving someone advice and putting them on trial. Again, you really shouldn't be discussing this with people on a forum. I seriously advise you to speak to someone.
My pathetic little friend,
Not only have I spoken with someone, I have taken in depth psychology and sociology courses on the subject and counseled other rape victims.
You are putting women on trial. You are stating 'if you just followed this advice you wouldn't be raped'. So when the woman gets raped, your attitude becomes, as you've made clear by your comments in this thread, that if only she'd followed that advice, she wouldn't have been raped.
If you follow this advice you won't get raped = If only you'd followed that advice, you wouldn't have been raped.
And either way, it's a FUCKING LIE.
There is no advice that can magically keep a woman from being the victim of sexual assault. She has no control over it. It doesn't matter what she wears, what she carries, whether she travels in a group in public, or whether she locks the doors at night. The only person who decides whether or not a woman is the victim of sexual assault is the rapist.
An ordinary man does not rape. A woman's clothing choices do not affect this. Thus, the statement that dressing in a sexy manner affects a woman's chances of being raped are a flat out lie. A lie that does more harm than good, for two reasons. 1) it places blame on the victim, and 2) it convinces women that if they dress nicely they are safe.