Objectifying women

[Eilonnwy]

This was interesting; it made me realise just how deeply ingrained our prejudices about the roles of men and women are. Of course, with regards to women wearing sexy clothes, it can mean different things from person to person.

True, but that's why it's so important to listen to what a woman says and not just assume. Despite my own personal preferences, there are woman who enjoy casual sex, and I don't look down on them for it. I think there are other ways to convey to someone what your intentions are.

Some women might well be trying to attract sexual advances, or at least might not mind them. Others, like you, Eilonnwy, don't want men coming onto them (in the flirting sense, not... the other sense. Though presumably they wouldn't want them to do that, either). It makes me think that life would be so much easier if there were an official, universally recognised guide to sexual relationships. Crop top and mini skirt= I'm available and willing. Anything else would mean 'Look but don't touch.'

I am guilty of being a terrible flirt, because it's fun, and I enjoy it, and I think the men I do it with have fun too. But usually it's with people who know me and get the fact that I'm like just like that. I don't think clothes should be an indicator of what your intentions are, but more your words and your actions. I think there are probably other better ways to let someone know they're up for a night of fun. I mean, what harm does it do to just be upfront about it, man or woman? If you get turned down, no harm no fowl. But if you work of off vague indicators, you can end up misinterpreting and making a mistake that could lead to far more severe consequences. Especially in situations where alcohol and drugs are a factor.