Eilonnwy -
We could argue about what constitutes common sense (ie what would actually reduce the chances of getting raped) and what wouldn't. I don't think anyone has a problem, I certainly don't, with discussing the details. But there are two issues. One is what I've just mentioned, and the other is about the victim mentality. All we're trying to say (the guys here) is be careful, that's all. Surely one thing we can agree on is this : If you think that you're taking a risk, and you do nothing about it on the grounds that no one ought to rape you, then you're a fool, whether you get raped or not. And if someone does get raped and later it can be seen that she could have avoided it somehow or at least reduced the chances of it happening, then a lesson can be learned. Obviously that last phrase of mine can be misunderstood, but only by people who are already determined to see everything from a victim mentality point of view.
We could argue about what constitutes common sense (ie what would actually reduce the chances of getting raped) and what wouldn't. I don't think anyone has a problem, I certainly don't, with discussing the details. But there are two issues. One is what I've just mentioned, and the other is about the victim mentality. All we're trying to say (the guys here) is be careful, that's all. Surely one thing we can agree on is this : If you think that you're taking a risk, and you do nothing about it on the grounds that no one ought to rape you, then you're a fool, whether you get raped or not. And if someone does get raped and later it can be seen that she could have avoided it somehow or at least reduced the chances of it happening, then a lesson can be learned. Obviously that last phrase of mine can be misunderstood, but only by people who are already determined to see everything from a victim mentality point of view.
