Objectifying women

[gameslover]

So uh yeah, I came here through the post on rage_free ( http://community.livejournal.com/rage_free/78707.html ) and I just wanted to comment as a rape victim, and also a Pakistanian.

Whoever said: "However I'm also saying that if you don't acknowledge personal responsibility, you're a professional victim / victim mentality." Do you even know what victim blaming means? Here's wikipedia's definition: "Victim blaming (or blaming the victim) is holding the victims of a crime, an accident, or any type of abusive maltreatment to be entirely or partially responsible for the unfortunate incident that has occurred in their life."

So yeah, if you're telling a victim to take "responsibility", you're victim-blaming.

Anyway, if dressing a certain way actually did provoke rape, maybe you'd be reasonable, but fact is, it doesn't. Rape has nothing to do with sexual attraction, it has to do with wanting control and power over the victim and liking the fear coming out of them. That is why people rape babies, dogs, old people, people they have no attraction to. That is why countries where women are supposed to be covered head to toe actually have higher rates of actual rape (more about that).

Case in point: I was raped because I was a lesbian. The guy in question had no attraction to me but raped me because he thought he could turn me straight and no, I was not dressed provocatively. At all.

And to the person who denied that our countries have plenty of unreported rapes: I'm telling you right now, you're full of shit. In these countries, due to the rampant misogyny it is extremely easy to get away with rape; very often they will kill the victim for coming out and do nothing to the rapist. Attitudes like yours are common-that is why when I tried to tell my family about my rape, they practically disowned me (thank God we were in America, because back in my country...well I don't wanna think about it). After you're raped you're considered "dirty" somehow and no one wants you. That's actually how a lot of pimps recruit prostitutes, they rape them so that they'll have nothing to turn to afterwards. Victims are constantly denied and silenced.