(July 18, 2010 at 1:29 pm)Paul the Human Wrote: Now, if the woman that is dressed alluringly attracts the attention of someone in the bar and decides to leave with that person... I might whisper a "Careful, (insert name), I don't trust this guy." It's just advice. There is no underlying blame for something that has not and probably will not happen... only a voiced concern that the person be careful.
Would you tell a gay man to be careful if he leaves with another man at a bar? Does a man get any censure at all for wearing certain clothing, being out alone, etc... if he is raped? Is a man advised about this ad nauseum for being a man and having crosses to bear?
If you answer no, then that no points to an underlying sexism.
(July 18, 2010 at 1:29 pm)Paul the Human Wrote: You have this way of making anyone that thinks this way out to be a bad person. As if giving well intentioned advice is somehow doing the recipient of said advice a disservice.
I think, from interactions we have had here, that you're wonderful person, and I think everyone else here is a good person. Pointing out apparent sexism or flaws in thinking that, while good intentioned, cause harm does not mean we think people who have these thoughts are bad people. Being a good person doesn't mean you can't give bad advice, make bad choices, or do a disservice to someone unintentionally. No one's perfect. And calling people on their incorrect views, despite being well intentioned, in no way implies we think you are all bad people.
"The way to see by faith is to shut the eye of reason." Benjamin Franklin
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