Your proposal reads like someone who's just flat out giving up. But I know you. There's a motive. There always is with your kind. You never do anything without making sure other people know you are going to benefit in someway. So I have a few guesses. And knowing you... I'm probably not far off the mark.
1. You're pregnant by your alcoholic fiancee. And if you do to this kid, what you did to your first two - that kid will have no chance at a fair childhood. You made the first two do all of the housework starting when they were five years old. All of it. Not just helping mommy fold clothes. Nope - they had to do every single aspect of cleaning a house. At FIVE. Because you were too busy sitting around with your friends playing cards and smoking pot to actually be a parent.
And the oldest two are getting bigger and stronger than you. You can't beat them into submission anymore. You can't order them around. The fact that they want nothing to do with you comes as no surprise. So - you'll be glad to get rid of them to focus on brainwashing your newest little recruit. How sad.
2. Your fiancee doesn't want anything to do with the kids and he's made that clear. So rather than ditching that scumbag and being a loving mother - you'd rather let the kids go so you can stay with that piece of trash. Good job.
3. You realized what a mistake it was to initiate yet another custody action because we have more dirt on you than we had last time and this time, you'd more than likely get your rights stripped from you. And you know it. And you don't want to look like the county's biggest embarrassment so this is an easy out for you.
4. Or it could be a combination of all the the above.
I have loved these children since before I started dating their dad. You know, back when we were all friends. Back before you decided to cheat on him with five or six guys? Yeah. Since they were 5 and 8 years old. For the last 4 years, I have mothered these boys. I have cared for them as if they were my own. I have done for them, what you should have been doing all along. It's called Nurturing. And you don't have a nurturing bone in your body. If you did, you wouldn't be trying to up and walk away like this. It wouldn't be as easy as you're making it.
So you just want minimal contact with them. Every other weekend and possibly a mid-week visit a few times a month thrown in.
Well sweetie - I have a few stipulations of my own.
The first and most important one being that I get to be legally recognized as a guardian to these children. If I am going to become their main caregiver because their dad is the main breadwinner, then I deserve the right to be able to take care of doctor and dentist appointments. I have the right to interact with school personnel at all levels. You're walking away from those kinds of responsibilities. At the very least, since I have to fill in (actually I've been filling in for you for years now), it should be legalized so there's no question about my being able to make the sorts of decisions you're walking away from. That's only fair.
You have the email with the rest of our counter proposal. We aren't being unreasonable since you came at us from out of the blue with this sudden change of heart towards your own kids.
Also - stop hating me because I stepped up to the plate that you left at the table. Be grateful someone is willing to do that for your kids.
1. You're pregnant by your alcoholic fiancee. And if you do to this kid, what you did to your first two - that kid will have no chance at a fair childhood. You made the first two do all of the housework starting when they were five years old. All of it. Not just helping mommy fold clothes. Nope - they had to do every single aspect of cleaning a house. At FIVE. Because you were too busy sitting around with your friends playing cards and smoking pot to actually be a parent.
And the oldest two are getting bigger and stronger than you. You can't beat them into submission anymore. You can't order them around. The fact that they want nothing to do with you comes as no surprise. So - you'll be glad to get rid of them to focus on brainwashing your newest little recruit. How sad.
2. Your fiancee doesn't want anything to do with the kids and he's made that clear. So rather than ditching that scumbag and being a loving mother - you'd rather let the kids go so you can stay with that piece of trash. Good job.
3. You realized what a mistake it was to initiate yet another custody action because we have more dirt on you than we had last time and this time, you'd more than likely get your rights stripped from you. And you know it. And you don't want to look like the county's biggest embarrassment so this is an easy out for you.
4. Or it could be a combination of all the the above.
I have loved these children since before I started dating their dad. You know, back when we were all friends. Back before you decided to cheat on him with five or six guys? Yeah. Since they were 5 and 8 years old. For the last 4 years, I have mothered these boys. I have cared for them as if they were my own. I have done for them, what you should have been doing all along. It's called Nurturing. And you don't have a nurturing bone in your body. If you did, you wouldn't be trying to up and walk away like this. It wouldn't be as easy as you're making it.
So you just want minimal contact with them. Every other weekend and possibly a mid-week visit a few times a month thrown in.
Well sweetie - I have a few stipulations of my own.
The first and most important one being that I get to be legally recognized as a guardian to these children. If I am going to become their main caregiver because their dad is the main breadwinner, then I deserve the right to be able to take care of doctor and dentist appointments. I have the right to interact with school personnel at all levels. You're walking away from those kinds of responsibilities. At the very least, since I have to fill in (actually I've been filling in for you for years now), it should be legalized so there's no question about my being able to make the sorts of decisions you're walking away from. That's only fair.
You have the email with the rest of our counter proposal. We aren't being unreasonable since you came at us from out of the blue with this sudden change of heart towards your own kids.
Also - stop hating me because I stepped up to the plate that you left at the table. Be grateful someone is willing to do that for your kids.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
