(September 27, 2017 at 8:15 am)Little lunch Wrote: CIJS, every child I've met that has ADHD has very little or no discipline from their parents.
These same parents seem to just accept the diagnosis as fact immediately.
I'm not saying that ADHD isn't real, but can't they even put up a little bit of a fight for their child's future to be stigma free?
Is it easier to accept the verdict and relinquish all responsibility of being a parent with a piece of paper from a doctor being your 'Get out of jail free card'?
What does it do to a child when they stand up out of the box they came in and it says 'broken' on the side?
Granted, I'm no expert and I could very well be talking out of my arse, but my heart really hurts for these kids.
As a person who was dx'd with ADHD at age 7 and still has it to this day at age 46, I guess I'll be the first person you know who was heavily disciplined. My stepdad beat the shit out of me for seven years if I so much as looked wrong or breathed the wrong way. I was grounded for the slightest infraction. I certainly didn't get any free passes in my life.
I honestly don't think that being disciplined or not, really has anything to do with it. The "H" part of ADHD stands for Hyperactivity. Meds might help that, but not every parent wants to make their kids take meds that only cause their kid to become sedated in some way. Ritalin does that. It did that to me and I was taken off of it. And not every parent just gives up or doesn't fight for their kids.
ADHD isn't curable. ADHD is frustrating for anyone who has it. We have trouble getting the thoughts in our head organized enough so that when we have a task to perform, it's often difficult to stay focused. We have to work twice as hard just to concentrate on things that most other people can easily do.
Life with ADHD is not limited to seeing a kid bouncing off walls or not listening to their parents. It's way more complicated than that. And unless you can actually step inside the shoes of not only the person with ADHD, but the parent's shoes as well - please don't be so judgmental. It really hurts us.
Disclaimer: I am only responsible for what I say, not what you choose to understand.
