RE: A question for the ladies of AF
November 25, 2017 at 1:19 pm
(This post was last modified: November 25, 2017 at 1:26 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(November 25, 2017 at 12:50 pm)Catholic_Lady Wrote: Yeah I know. I'm confused as well.
Losty can you add asexual as a 4th option if possible? I forgot Mathilda requested that as well.
Another thing I find interesting is that sexual orientation in the sense of what sexes you would like to have sex with, and sexual orientation in the sense of what sexes you are attracted to, are often confused. If someone is sexually attracted to particular genders, but has no interest in engaging in sex in reality and prefers to stick to fantasy, then I guess they are in one sex sexual and another sense asexual? They're sexually attracted, but not interested in having sex, and prefer fantasy to reality.
And not only are there people who are sexually attracted to certain genders but have no interest in having sex with anyone in reality, there are also asexuals who have no sex drive at all, but who are capable of feeling romance, and so they therefore have a relationship with a sexual person, despite not being interested in sex, but not only that they also in fact willingly engage in sex with their partner, and consent to sex with their partner, despite having no sex drive, just to please their partner. After all, "Not attracted to X" is different to "has an aversion to X". So yeah, interestingly, asexuals can willingly engage in sexual relationships with sexuals and still be asexuals. And sexuals can have no interest in engaging in sex with anyone, but they're still sexuals rather than asexuals because they are still sexually attracted to some people, despite having no interest in sex (although maybe that means they're asexual in some other sense? So this is what I'm saying, there's 'sexual orientation' in the sense of 'what genders you would willingly have sex with' and there's sexual orientation in the sense of 'what genders you are sexually attracted to').