RE: I Don't Care
April 27, 2019 at 3:06 am
(This post was last modified: April 27, 2019 at 3:18 am by I_am_not_mafia.)
(April 26, 2019 at 11:23 pm)Losty Wrote:(April 26, 2019 at 11:12 pm)Gae Bolga Wrote: If you're reaching for crotch, the only business that matters is your business. They're your hands. Come up with something unexpected, well, I guess it's time to laugh or do some soul searching.
LOL, hell, you might even be looking for peen and find the wrong -kind- of peen. Your problem. Their toad peen aint your business until you decide to grab it.
It's just the usual dump of responsibility in othering, plausible until you give it a moments thought. Consider this - "you should have told me it was a mexican dick!" The gist is a denial of desire for shame. If only you'd known some x, then maybe you wouldn't have been so damned slutty, lol. My advice to any guy aquiver with fear over surprise penis is simple. A, it's not going to happen. B....on the odd chance it does, lean in, you obviously like her.
Now that you’ve edited your message I think I’m getting a better idea. You wouldn’t expect a one night stand to give you any other personal information on themselves so why this?
So yea, it’s probably on the person who wants to know to ask.
Also I have never advocated not telling someone you are about to sleep with if you are pre-op and they're going to find out anyway. But being called a date rapist for not telling someone when you are post-op and wouldn't otherwise know if you hadn't told them, that's just misogyny and transphobia. The problem is that Yonadav assumes that a trans-woman's body will always be a male body no matter what it looks like, feels like, or how it works. That's why I am saying that he has internalised the transphobia.
It's easy to do. I mean I have internalised all the aggression I experienced against me as a child and have grown up generally hating myself and feeling that I am worthless. I recognise what's happening but it doesn't mean that it's easy to fix. When I feel particularly angry with myself for messing up I sometimes even punch myself in my head. And that's all because I internalised it from a young age. People don't generally know that they have internalised homophobia or transphobia and the psychological cost of doing so is always very high because you end up hating a core part of yourself, or at the very least, suppressing who you are and trying to get everyone else to do the same. I am not going to do that just because some transsexual who is part of a patriarchal religion in another part of the world has bought into man-made bullshit.
I live in the UK. Acceptance of transsexuality is much greater here. There is not the same level of fear mongering that there is in the US, despite the right wing Christians from America trying to fund hate in this country.
